How To Overcome Fear of Marriage | Fear of Marriage

Love can be complicated, so it's no surprise that some fear inviting such complication into their lives. Some people, usually men, fear falling in love and losing their every day freedom. Others fear they will fail at love, so they shun the idea all together instead of embracing their fear and going for it.

New experiences and demands can be stressful. You don't know just what is round the corner, and you worry about this. You are more content to stick with status quo than to opt for an uncertain future. This fear is especially pronounced in those people who lack self-confidence and the fear can escalate when demands are made on us.

Every marriage is different and just because your parents or your friend's parents got divorce doesn't mean that your marriage will end up that way. If you think that your marriage will fall apart, take notes on the things that could make your marriage work. It's also good if you go asking around couples what makes their marriage work.

The first step is to get to the root of your commitment fears. For example: I had a friend who had lived through several heart breaks, and when she finally met the guy who really wanted to marry her, she pushed him away, because she could not shake off the feeling that the proposed marriage would end in yet another heartbreak.

Keep your life full and dynamic. Spend time away from your man and talk about how important your own life is to you. If he sees that you're not ready to give up anything for him either, he'll let his guard down. He needs to know that your relationship is not going to suddenly change his entire life just because you two make a vow of commitment.

Come a day that is stressful and problematic and new elements of the spouse's character, particularly negative ones, will be pushed to the fore. It is only a matter of time before those invisible forces take effect. Years later, when the couple seem almost like two strangers, they are likely to marvel how little they really knew their partners when they honestly thought they did.

For some, a more accurate description would be an intolerance of intimacy. You may have a desire for intimacy yet at the same time have a strong, negative physical reaction to deeper levels of connection.

It's as if your body's intimacy-thermostat is set to avoidance or withdrawal mode whenever a certain level of intimacy occurs. Fear, as the saying goes is "False Evidence Appearing Real". You have to neglect all the false evidences around you. Your parents' broken marriage is not an evidence that you will have one.