Reasons For Separation in Marriage

The separation can be a time to think, to reflect, to analyze, to cool off and calm down, and to take a break from each other. It also provides time and space for each spouse to make unhurried, thoughtful decisions instead of waiting for things to blow up and then impulsively leaving. Used in this way, a planned separation can actually help to save a marriage.
Of course, children are all different so you can't take one answer and apply it to every child in the world. What might upset some children may not bother others. For the most part, marriage separation is more confusing to children than it is painful, though.

Marriage separation allows couples more time to think and reflect on their relationship and whether the cheating was too much to forgive. After a certain period of time, they can usually determine whether to move on without their spouse or with them.

Be empathetic and try to realize why they are upset by these things and what you can do to fix it. Remember this later when you get the chance to speak with them so you can explain that you've been thinking and what you plan on doing about those same things. This will make your spouse realize that you really do care and that you want to make things better. 

Just not putting in the time necessary to talk to one another is another of the reasons why couples drift apart. There is so much to deal with and discuss when you're raising children, chasing careers and trying to balance the budget. If you don't fit in some time to talk about the relationship and what's going on with it, the marriage won't stand a chance of surviving.

If you haven't seen your family or friends for a while, now is the perfect time to do so. Have a get-together at your house. Have everyone bring a dish, so there will be no pressure on you to prepare anything. It doesn't have to be big and fancy - just something to get you with other people, and maybe get your mind off of the separation for a while.

Sometimes the serious problems that the couple present and share are only a cover-up for more deeper and underlying issues: unfulfilled desires and a lack of trust for a better future. When there is a hidden desire to split apart, or try living under an alternative roof and relationship, a split could be a one-way ticket from renewing the marriage.

Most importantly, always move very slowly.  Don't press for commitments or demand to see your husband more than he is comfortable with.  You are better off leaving him wanting more.  The atmosphere should be fun and lighthearted.